Control & Power Over Others
Unpacks the desire to manage people or outcomes, and how trusting God reshapes leadership, love, and freedom.
SINS OF RELATIONSHIP
Pride & Self-Exaltation
Pride shows up when we elevate ourselves above others — in thoughts, words, or actions — and measure worth by ability, reputation, or image. You may find yourself constantly comparing, defending your choices, or needing to be right, admired, or in control. This drive to protect your status or prove your value can create distance in relationships, strain your peace, and keep you from experiencing authentic connection with others.
Spiritually, pride pushes your heart away from the humility Jesus models and invites us into. When self-exaltation becomes a default posture, you may rely on your own strength or approval rather than on God’s grace and truth. But the good news of the gospel says that Jesus, who humbled Himself and lived with servant-heart love, meets us right where we are and reshapes our identity from the inside out. In Him, humility isn’t weakness — it becomes a doorway to deeper freedom, peace, and joyful connection with God and others.
Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.
— Proverbs 16:18
But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.
— James 4:6
I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.
— Luke 18:14
TURN TOWARD JESUS
Explore Practices That Shape the Heart
Turning toward Jesus means turning away from the sin you’re entangled in—and choosing practices that reshape your heart over time. Explore studying the Bible, prayer, fasting, and forgiveness to take a clear next step toward repentance, freedom, and deeper fellowship with Him.
GET HOPE & HELP
Resources for Helping with Pride & Self-Exaltation
Video
The Culture of Pride
A Timothy Keller sermon from Living by Faith in Troubled Times on how pride corrupts culture and how Habakkuk’s message…
Podcast
How Do I Kill My Pride?
A Desiring God interview with John Piper about understanding and overcoming pride through gospel-centered humility.
Video
Think of Yourself Less
A Desiring God message by John Piper encouraging believers to think of themselves less and find joy in Christ-centered humility.
NEXT STEPS
If you’ve ever found yourself defending your pride, comparing yourself to others, or feeling like you must prove your worth, you’re not alone. These next steps are designed to help you turn toward Jesus and grow in humility, grace, and love that reflects His heart.
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AN INVITATION TO JOIN US AT SONRISE
At Sonrise Church, we believe real life change happens when people encounter Jesus, walk in truth, and grow together in community. You are welcome here—no matter your past, your struggles, or where you’re starting from. Join us this Sunday to take your next step toward freedom and formation with us. Jesus changes everything.
Sonrise Church
Service Times:
- Sunday : 9:00 AM (1st Service)
- Sunday : 10:40 AM (2nd Service)
At Sonrise Church in Santee, CA, we recognize how pride can subtly shape your thoughts and interactions — whether you’re trying to manage others’ impressions of you, protect your status, or prove your worth through performance. In East County San Diego, many people wrestle with comparison, self-defense, and the urge to be seen as strong or accomplished. Sonrise Church offers compassionate teaching and community rooted in Scripture that helps you explore what it means to live with humility, trust God’s grace, and find freedom from the pressure to self-exalt.
In Santee, El Cajon, La Mesa, and Lakeside, our church family gathers to support one another in growing in humility and grace — learning to value others above ourselves, listening before reacting, and rooting our identity in Christ’s love rather than in worldly approval. Jesus invites you into a life of humble strength, where you don’t have to prove yourself, but are loved and accepted as God’s child. If you’re longing for peace, authentic connection, and a heart shaped by humility, Sonrise Church in East County San Diego is a place to take your next steps with others walking the same journey of faith.
Come discover how the gospel reshapes pride into a life of humility, freedom, and love that reflects Christ.