Conflict is often fueled by competing desires, pride, or misunderstanding—but God calls His people to be peacemakers. Biblical peace isn’t the absence of tension; it’s the presence of truth, humility, and love.

The goal isn’t winning—it’s honoring God and pursuing what’s truly good for the other person. Sometimes that leads to reconciliation; sometimes it leads to clear boundaries. In all cases, Jesus calls us to respond with integrity, love and peace.

1) Pause and pray — Ask God to search your heart and calm your emotions.
2) Own your part — Confess sin quickly and clearly, without excuses.
3) Speak the truth in love — Be honest, specific, and gentle.
4) Listen well — Seek understanding, not ammunition.
5) Forgive as you’ve been forgiven — Release vengeance to God and pursue peace.
6) Seek wise help when needed — Bring in a pastor/leader when conflict is stuck or serious.

If there is abuse, threats, ongoing manipulation, or unsafe behavior, the next step is not a private conversation—it’s getting help. God’s heart is protection and truth, and seeking support is not a lack of faith; it’s wisdom.

No—Christians don’t avoid conflict; we handle it differently. Love tells the truth, seeks peace, and addresses issues with humility.

You can’t control outcomes—only your obedience. Do your part with truth and love, set wise boundaries, and seek counsel if the pattern continues.

Forgiveness is releasing the right to retaliate and entrusting justice to God. Reconciliation requires repentance, trust-building, and often time—sometimes it isn’t possible or safe.

If the conflict is stuck, repeated, involves serious harm, or you’re unsure what’s true, involve a pastor, counselor, or wise leader to help bring clarity and accountability.

Own it fully. Confess without excuses, ask forgiveness, and take concrete steps to rebuild trust over time—repentance is more than words.