Through Forgiveness
Forgiveness is one of the hardest and most Christlike things we do. When someone hurts us, our instinct is to protect ourselves, hold onto anger, or demand repayment. But Jesus calls His followers to forgive—not because the pain didn’t matter, but because He has forgiven us.
Biblical forgiveness is releasing the right to revenge and entrusting justice to God. It doesn’t erase consequences, deny harm, or require immediate reconciliation—but it does free your heart from bitterness and opens the door to healing. This page will help you understand forgiveness and take a wise next step toward freedom and peace.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger… forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
— EPHESIANS 4:31–32
For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
— MATTHEW 6:14-15
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”
— ROMANS 12:19
Resources to Help You Forgive
Forgiveness is both spiritual and deeply practical. These resources will help you understand what forgiveness is, work through real wounds, set wise boundaries, and move toward freedom and healing through Christ.
Forgiveness and Reconciliation
Tim Keller teaches forgiveness as a community practice rooted in Matthew 18, explaining why it’s crucial, what it is, and…
Learning to Forgive Family
John Piper explains that biblical forgiveness means releasing the debt and seeking the offender’s good from the heart—even in painful,…
Reasons to Forgive, Part 1
This John MacArthur video message grounds Christian forgiveness in the gospel, showing how Christ’s cross makes forgiveness both possible and…
A trusted Christian classic by Ken Sande that offers biblical principles for resolving conflict, restoring relationships, and pursuing peace through…
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Frequent Questions About Forgiveness
Forgiveness raises real questions—especially when the hurt was deep, repeated, or complicated. These FAQs offer clear biblical guidance so you can take a wise next step toward freedom without minimizing what happened.
Forgiveness is a decision to release resentment and cancel a personal debt—choosing not to repay evil for evil. It isn’t pretending it didn’t happen, minimizing harm, or instantly trusting someone again. Forgiveness is about your heart; trust is rebuilt over time.
Unforgiveness keeps you stuck—replaying the hurt, feeding bitterness, and shaping your identity around pain. Forgiveness is a gospel response: because God has shown us mercy, we extend mercy. It brings freedom and makes room for peace and restoration.
Forgiveness can be offered even if the other person doesn’t repent. Reconciliation requires repentance, honesty, and time. And in cases of ongoing harm or unsafe behavior, healthy boundaries and outside help are not unloving—they’re wise.
1) Name the hurt (be honest with God).
2) Release the debt (choose forgiveness).
3) Entrust justice to God (Romans 12).
4) Pray blessing (even when you don’t feel it).
5) Take a next step (a conversation, a boundary, or asking for help).
Ask God for help. Forgiveness is often a process, not a moment. The Holy Spirit empowers what we can’t do on our own, and healing usually grows through prayer, time, and community support.
Yes—forgiveness is releasing bitterness and vengeance to God, even if repentance hasn’t happened. Reconciliation is different and may not be possible yet.
No. Forgiveness cancels a personal debt; trust is rebuilt through repentance and consistent change over time.
Forgiveness doesn’t excuse wrong—it acknowledges the wrong and releases your right to repay it. Justice still matters, and God sees fully.
Jesus calls us to a lifestyle of forgiveness. This doesn’t mean staying in harm’s way—it means keeping our hearts free from bitterness.
Get help. Forgiveness can still be pursued, but safety and wise support are essential. Talk with a pastor and a trusted professional to take the right next step.
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If you’re carrying bitterness, walking through deep hurt, or unsure how forgiveness applies to your situation, we’d love to help. Fill out the form below and someone from the Sonrise team will reach out to listen, pray with you, and help you take a wise next step toward freedom and healing in Christ.
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